Top 10 love-games

We fully agree with age-old adage that competition between lovers makes a relationship sour, but what if the competition is packed in some utterly romantic love games? 

Well, in such a case, these love games will strengthen your love ties by bringing you closer to your mate thus taking both partners to newer heights of interactivity and intimacy. In short, love competition adds the much needed spice to your relationship. 

Sometimes it takes something as simple as being playful to ward off the monotony surrounding our love life and to get you both back into the mood for romance and passion. So, get into the act folks as it's playtime and remember there's nothing like a sexy romantic game to sizzle up the action between the sheets. There's no time like the present moment so go ahead and get acquainted with these fun-filled love games that seek to unleash the playboy in your man and the sex siren in you. You don't have to be a newly-wed to play these love games. These games are the best remedy when you feel the spark fizzling out of your love shack. Just gear up for some love action coz as the saying goes - 'couples that play together, stay together!' 

1. Hide and Seek 

Before you chuck this idea out as a stale game, let us tell you that it's a 'n*de' hide and seek match that we are proposing! So, make sure your blinds are down before you both decide to do the 'Full Monty' or peeping Toms in your neighbourhood may just end up having a field day. 

Rules: When the game is intensely naughty, the rules have to be sexier to keep up the tempo. How about something like: "If he finds you, he wins 10 minutes of extreme pleasure." And in case he fails, he'll be your love slave for the day and vice versa. Exploit his weakness to the fullest! 

Add the sizzle: Rather than being stark n*ked, wear just one piece of clothing that simply turns your partner on. How about a garter belt or those killer stilettoes? Men, how about those sexy thongs or how about flaunting that tattoo near your navel. Finding you wearing just what he/she dreams of will add to the victory match! 

2. Bursting balloons 

Who said only kids play with balloons? Even adults do! By the end of this balloon game, resisting each other will be simply impossible. Blow up ten (or more) round party balloons. Place them between you and your lover while lying in bed together. Now, both of you start to hug, squeeze and kiss each other, while squashing the balloons in between your bodies resulting in them going pop! The bet is to break as many of them as possible. 

Rules: You can't break the balloons alone by riding on them, but strictly by squashing them between your hot bods. 

Add the sizzle: Pep up the thrill of breaking the balloons by putting sweet little love notes into some of them. The balloons are a lot harder to pop this way than you might imagine.

3. Basketball strip game 

Playing basket ball with your partner is a good idea to induce some physical exercise. All you need to do is set up a basketball hoop in your home and start shooting hoops. Doesn't sound interesting enough? Why not make it titillating by adding a sensuous reward for every shot you get through? 

So, every time he scores, you have to strip a piece of clothing you have on and if you get through, he strips and so on. This acts as an exciting twist in your normal basketball routine and is surely going to set the temperature soaring with sweaty passion. Before you know it, waiting for that last winning shot will be actually arousing! 

Rules: Abandon the usual tracks or shorts and dress formally from head to toe. More the number of clothes...more is the sexual excitement as you view your partner stripping off every last piece of clothing to keep up with your sex drive! 

Add the sizzle: The winner gets it all as the losing partner has to do anything and everything the winner demands. The more creative you are, the more fun the exercise promises to be! 

4. Sniff the kiss zone

No G-spot hunting here! Rather, in this game you need five diverse fragrances sprayed on five different spots of your body. Now, let your partner employ his senses to detect those sweet smelling spots and leave his love mark there! Reward? Hmm...what's better than a sweet smelling kiss or a long lasting hickey? 

Rules: The hunter is strictly supposed to do a 'nose job with no skin touches' until he/she locates the sweet smelling spot and once it's done; the other partner simply has to surrender. 

Add the sizzle: Get experimental! Instead of regular flowery smells...go for heady fragrances to drive your mate to new heights. The effect will not just be magical, but lasting as well. 

5. Nooky numbers 

This will only make for*play even more intense. All you both need is a deck of cards here. Shuffle and place them face-down between you and your partner. Now, take turns to pick out cards from the pile. Follow the rules below and keep playing till you can resist taking the big plunge. 

Rules: If you draw a number card, you get to kiss that many spots on your partner's body. 

You drew a King/Queen? You win a 15-minute, sensual body massage. 

If a Jack is drawn, simultaneously pleasure each other for ten minutes in all your favourite love spots. 

Aces are considered wild card entry here! If you are lucky to draw one, it grants you one of your carnal desires. 

Add the sizzle: Surprise your partner with a yummy smooch in his/her desired body part if you loved the massage. You never know...you may end up hitting the jackpot!

6. Blind Berry Hunting

In this love hunt, one partner blindfolds the other. Whoever is not blindfolded hides small quantities of berries (raspberries, blueberries, etc) all over their body and the other has to hunt them out. The reward is that the hunter wins wishes equaling the number of berries he has located. 

Rules: The hunter is not allowed to use hands, only mouth-work here. And the other partner has to grant the hunter's most ero*ic wishes. 

Add the sizzle: Don't let the excitement finish at just discovering the berries. Hand feed them to your beau on the very body part you located them. Tickling caused by your eating coupled with the magic of berry-juice dripping while you eat will turn-on your partner leaving him/her craving for more action! 

7. Love Pictionary 

You must have played Pictionary as a child. We are just making it 'love pictionary' for the adults. In this game, one of you makes a sketch of the surprise you want to have at night from your partner.For instance, draw a beach, sand, sun and sea if you want to get dirty on the beach this weekend! And if your partner guesses your clue right...you don't have to ask for another reward! He too wins a chance to etch out his wildest fantasies! A win-win situation for both! 

Rules: Whosoever is drawing should not speak and the guessing mate can't deny actually performing what's been drawn. What if he fails to guess? He doesn't get a chance to draw what he wants till he makes the right guess. 

Add the sizzle: The drawer can be as suggestive as he/she can while drawing out the clues. After all, you want your partner to guess right! 

8. Ultimate patience test

As the name suggests, in this game both the partners take chances to test each other's patience. One of them is active, while the other is a passive partner. The passive partner has to lie still, while the active partner takes charge to do just about everything pleasurable to the other. Being active, your motto is to elicit a response from the other, while the latter has to strive to control so as to enjoy maximum gratification. 

Rules: It is only when the passive partner reacts (moans or moves) that the doer wins his pleasure trip. 

Add the sizzle: The active partner is allowed to touch all levels of teaching and touching to excite the passive partner. The best part about this game are the discoveries you make about your partner - sensitive areas on his/her body, most erogenous zones, favourite pleasurable techniques, sensual responses, the list is endless. Every game will make you more adroit to excel in the second round.

9. Catch an alphabet!

You must have played it in your schooldays. It was something like this - one person started with a city starting with 'A' as the other called out a city's name starting with the alphabet on which the first city ended. Replace the cities with parts of each other's bodies now! Let him start with a body part starting with 'A' and then you take it forward. The tease here is that each one has to kiss the body part being called out. If there's no body part corresponding to an alphabet, just get creative and name it yourself to keep the passion soaring sky high. 

Rules: You can't skip your turn. Whosoever fails to find a body part loses the golden chance to kiss. As they say one person's loss is another's gain - the other partner takes over his chance to get naughty with a particular part of your body. So try and win! 

Add the sizzle: Don't just limit yourself to kissing your lover's body part! 

10. Role playing 

All of us cherish certain wild fantasies relating to certain professions and professionals. Some love getting spanked by a head mistress, while others just love watching a doctor taking over. If even you have one such naughty fantasy...get into some serious role playing! Dress up the way your partner wants and play act a naughty role just for him/her. How about a wicked schoolgirl getting spanked by a strict teacher or a sexy librarian and student or for that matter a hot detective and his suspect? The possibilities are wild... 

Rules: While play-acting, forget your real self. You can only use the props and places suiting the role. For instance, a teacher's spanking stick or a doctor's stethoscope checking out never explored places in your body will create quite a ripple. 

Add the sizzle: Ask your partner what all he fantasies doing with/doing to his favourite character and help him achieve the perfect part. 

Try these love games, and you'll be surprised to watch your relationship grow all the more exciting and healthy! 

Tips & Warnings

1. Don't shy away from trying these games. If one isn't good for you, another must be. So, explore... 

2. Let your imaginative juices flow while playing these games to get the desired results. 

3. Make sure you know your partner's preferences before you trigger off any love game. Everybody is not equally sporting.

9 ways to meet 'Mr Right'

If hitting all the so-called single spots isn’t helping you find your dream match, rethink your routine with some out-of-the-box guy-meeting tactics.

1. Find your friends’ friends : Combine your love of online shopping with the best way to meet eligible men —through friends, recommends Rachel Greenwald, author of Why He Didn't Call You Back:1,000 Guys Reveal What They REALLY Thought About You After Your Date. Scroll through your friends’ friends on social networking sites like Twitter or Facebook and play a game Greenwald calls, “I Spy a Cute Guy.” Find someone intriguing who’s also single (check with your mutual friend if his profile is private)? Ask to be introduced. “Because Facebook isn’t an official online dating site, the pressure is off,” she says. “You can get to know each other first as friends and go from there.”

2. Brush up on current affairs : It’s a good idea to make info-gathering an everyday part of your life—and not to impress guys (even though it’s a fact that they like smart, well informed babes), but for your own IQ and confidence. Make news channels like Times Now, CNN or BBC your Internet home page, subscribe to political and news magazine that gives you each week’s news stories. You’ll be able to strike up a conversation in no time.

3. Twitter for love : Everyone seems to have been bitten by the Twitter bug. Now use Twitter for more than getting the lowdown of your friends’ lives. Send a tweet on Friday afternoon that you’re meeting friends at your favorite watering hole for an impromptu happy hour. Tell your followers to bring their friends. You’re bound to meet new people, and even if they’re not single, they might know someone to fix you up with later.”

4. Go Solo : It can feel odd to watch a movie by yourself or sit solo at a coffee shop, but many happily attached women know that spending some time by yourself is a surefire way to meet someone great, says Karrine Steffans, author of The Vixen Manual. So chill at a Barista with your laptop and a latte, take your dog for a long walk or treat yourself to lunch at an outdoor café—solo!

5. Say Yes More Often : It can be tempting to cancel on a party invite if you’re feeling pooped or dying to catch the new episode of your favourite show, but accepting an invite or two each month that you’d otherwise turn down can give your love life a life, says Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was A liar: The Real Reason You Cannot Find (Or Keep) A Prince. Asked out by a guy who doesn’t fit your dream definition? Just say yes!

6. Recycle the single guys you know : Everyone knows interesting guys who aren’t right for them (think your single best male pal, coworker or a former date who’s now just a friend) but who might be right for someone else. Go ahead and guy-cycle. Organise a low-key get-together and recycle those 'great-but-not-for-you' guys by inviting single women to the party. Set a one-single-guy minimum, encouraging female guests to bring at least one guy they’d recommend to other girls. Then watch the sparks fly!

7. Get sweaty: Local sports clubs let you get in shape by playing softball, swimming, karate, tennis or any other sport you enjoy, and they’re full of athletic, fun-loving guys.

8. Learn how his stomach thinks : The best place to meet guys is at a busy restaurant at lunch. So head out more often for that lunch break at a popular eatery as there is always a line of cute guys around the corner. Apart from a heart meal, men feel these are perfect places to strike up a conversation.

9. Make more female friends : The next time you walk into a party, don’t scan the room for handsome men only, but rather seek out the most social, outgoing woman you can find. Get to know her and invite her for coffee. Chances are, if you were drawn to her, she’ll have a lot of other friends—including male ones—who were drawn to the same qualities as you.

Predictions 2010: Love and sex

2009 has almost come to an end. While some of us may have found the partner of our dreams, the love we have longed for, others may not have been so successful in the matters of love and sex. Numerologist Rajeev Khattar examines the good and not-so-good for all of us in 2010...

Number 1

Many surprises are in store for you this year. You'll suddenly realise that you are in love! If you are married, you will find your partner to be even more attractive, whereas the single ones will mingle with fresh faces throughout the year. Yet you need to keep the doors of your heart open to let a prospective life partner come in. Respecting and understanding your spouse will ensure a smooth love life, as there is no point carrying ego in matters of love. This is the year to experiment with some new positions in bed. Roses and chocolates will enhance your romantic life.

Number 2

Your emotions, love life and sex drive are governed by the moon. As the moon waxes and wanes, your mood changes as well. Make sure to check your emotions this year to enjoy the blessings of Venus, the Goddess of love, romance, luxuries and sex! July till year end, you will find yourself being very romantic as last year’s family and financial commitments would have been met by then. Your fantasies and creativity will add a new dimension to physical pleasures. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself most wanted in the circle of the rich, beautiful and influential personalities. You will have many candlelight dinners followed by sizzling sessions of steaming sex in September.

Number 3

This year will prove to be very decisive in the matters of the heart as Jupiter, the ruler of your number, is also the ruler of the year! Jupiter in Aquarius will bring peace not only to you but to the world also, hence improvement in relationships is assured! Months of March and December will see you getting involved with a witty person. Married couples should be patient in June and July for they may find their spouse to suddenly be irritable and short-tempered. Please keep in mind that it is not their fault but the result of planetary movements. Take care of your hair and do make sure there are no worn-out or burnt clothes in the house. These small astro-tricks will bring peace and harmony into your home sweet home.

Number 4

You can expect good news, many happenings and developments as far as love and sex are concerned. This is one of the most memorable years for you. Stars are extremely favourable to you to enjoy physical pleasures. Make sure not to make love before sunset else your bright prospects will be hampered. Married couples should go for vacations to enjoy their second honeymoon. It’s time to read and master the Kamasutra. You must learn the tricks of the trade to become successful in bed. Mantra for the year –wear perfume and cut your nails regularly. In the late evenings of the winter months, massaging each other with sesame oil will surely ignite passion. Whispering sweet nothings in the ears of your partner will take your joy to greater heights.

Number 5

Young at heart, you love to experiment with all types of people before settling down with the person of your dreams. Same can be said about your interest in experimenting with various positions and locations when you enjoy divine pleasure in bed. March seems to be the right month to strengthen your ties with your spouse. Singles will get new lessons in love and love making in August. Good time to travel and meet new people; loners will meet interesting people in October. Paying attention to your partner’s needs’ will prove to be right approach to get his co-operation throughout the year.

Number 6

Venus is your ruler and its exalted position in March will keep you busy with lots of lovely assignments in the company of beautiful people! Grab the golden opportunity and make hay while the sun shines. A romantic holiday by the sea side in February is very much possible. May and September (till year end) will also make your love life cool and sex life hot when Venus remains in her own zodiac sign. You will take more interest in understanding your partner’s needs, dreams and desires. Wear light shades to woo your partner. Think of loving your partner in novel ways when you go for holidays at the end of the year.

Number 7

Those of you who are looking for a life partner of your choice will get good news this year. February and July are the months of great significance for your love and sex life. Married couples will feel their love for each other increase tenfold in March. Meeting a long distance, friendly lover will bring joy. June and July are the best months to clear misunderstandings by dropping the guns and gifting roses to each other. Taking interest in other people will not solve the problem. The best way to resolve disputes is to sit in a relaxed atmosphere and have a heart to heart. Going for walks together every morning holding hands is a proven stress buster and love booster.

Number 8

Do check the credentials and intentions of prospective lovers and partners as the chances of you getting involved with the wrong person are very high. This year, you need to be extra cautious of sycophants as well. March, September and December are lucky as far as love life is concerned. You are a misunderstood person, so avoid mixing love with business and try not to find love at work place for harmony in life. Watching a soft, romantic movie with your partner on a Friday night is not a bad idea to boost emotional ties. Be a pure vegetarian on Saturdays. Meeting an old flame to whom you have never expressed affection, is very much possible this year.

Number 9

Energetic ruler of your number, Mars, will be placed 180 degrees opposite to Venus, the planet of beauty, love and sex. This placement ensures many passionate encounters in February. Wear a combination of red and cream colours to enhance your charm throughout the year. Sharing a chocolate with your lover will be an excellent idea to initiate the French kiss in the game of love. Preserve your energies for socialising in October and November. Wear silver ornaments to calm down your nerves. Your romantic fantasies will be at their creative best in the rainy season.

10 bedroom must-haves

Tired of boredom in your bedroom? Wanting to add a dash of adventure to your sex sessions? Maybe it's time you converted your bedroom into a veritable Garden of Eden to add that sizzle between the sheets.

We bring to you a list of top 10 props, which are a must have in every couple's bedroom.

So get started collecting these love essentials and you could be in for some real hot action tonight.

1. Passion oils: Those unaware about the power of fragrances must know that right kind of smell works as a magical mood setter driving passion to new heights. So, a few essential passion oils in your bedroom are unavoidable so that they help you remain surcharged at all moments.

"Natural scents present in aroma oils are of key importance when it comes to heightening sexual attraction. Some scents are overpoweringly arousing aphrodisiacs for women, while others are good enough to bewitch even the most sober of men," explains Dr. Naresh Arora of Chase Aroma Therapy.

Some of the most effective passion oils are: Ylang Ylang, Rose otto, Jasmine, Neroli and Orange blossom. A drop in the diffuser, a sensuous massage or an utterly romantic bath with these passion oils is what you need to spark a night full of action!

2. A blindfold: Big or small – the excitement caused by blindfolding your lover can perk up the adrenaline rush. Add to it the feel of a satiny-silk cloth blind-folding your eyes and the thrill of touching and feeling your lover in all the unexplored places of his body.

You can also play hide and seek and various other tantalising love games using a blind-fold in the most sensuous manner. So go ahead and blindfold your partner to expose him to a sight they've never experienced before.

3. Handcuffs and silk scarves: If you lay your hands on a handcuff, nothing like it...else silk and satin scarves can also be a sensuous help to pep up the temperature. The purpose here is to have soft ties for bondage during for*play or sex. Just turn your partner into your slave by handcuffing him/her to the bed or simply tying their limbs with something as soft and sexy as a silk scarf.

Being restrained and then loved can multiply the passion manifolds. "I find it really ero*ic to see my man writhing, struggling and moaning when I get naughty with him as he remains totally under my control, which happens only when I tie him up," says Neerja Mehendiratta, a 27-years-old advertising professional.

Being helpless is definitely pleasurable, even for your partner who's enjoying the mild domination. Either way, it's a win-win situation for both the partners, which adds to the sex experience.

4. A feather or a soft brush: Make your beau your sex slave and convert a mundane love making ritual into a heady passion play. Your partner is at your disposal and you have nothing but your hands to work with. Get into the experiment mode and use a soft brush to paint ero*ic love strokes on his chest, trunk, back...and anywhere that leaves him panting...tickling...and begging for more!

Arrange for a soft feather and let the playful touch therapy make him lose his senses to you. Men can use the feather to give a sensuous foot massage to their lady love and watch her writhe with pleasure. Or use it on her navel to turn her to new heights of pleasure.

5. Erotica: Forget those ero*ic movies and check out the nearest book store for sensuous erotica. Listening to your girl reading out pleasure commentary of another couple in action will be a sure shot stimulus for you to put your mind in active mode. "Reading erotica can be a very powerful trigger to fire-up passion.

While it is true that majority of women would rather read erotica and the majority of men would prefer watching it, ero*ic stories can stir desire and heighten arousal in both genders. Just reading erotica can help you explore your boundaries in a safe and comfortable way," explains sexologist Shivi Jaggi. What more...make her sit in your lap and read, while you can transform her words into hot action! What say?

6. Mirror magic: Of course a full size mirror is a great help while dressing-up. But how about adding a sexual twist? The next time you are making out, position yourself in front of a full size mirror and watch each other undress and indulge in wild moves. The result is bound to be far more rewarding.

Place the mirror strategically in front of the bed and be an audience to your own sexapades, just like 38 year-old, Bhaskar Mahendroo does. "I just love watching me and my partner make out in the mirror. I started the practice four years ago when boredom and monotony had gripped my sexual life, and it worked...it brought an element of voyeuristic adventure and we enjoy it a lot," he claims.

7. Sexy surprises: Anything as sudden like a lustful quickie in the bath tub or an unannounced love note claiming, "You win to undress me tonight!" is a great passion booster. Taking your lover by surprise is a rewarding experience. Tuck in a love note that says – 'get a six on the love dice and you win to live your most cherished sexual fantasy', will simply take your beau to seventh heaven. It's all about how good are you at imagining...wilder the better!

8. Musical mirage: "Music has the prowess to power your bedroom with the right ambience required to stimulate passion and fervour into your love arena," says sexologist Shivi Jaggi. Begin with matching steps on your favourite love song, mind you—distance not allowed here, so get real close. Keep cuddling and pampering each other till you can't resist one another.

We assure you it won't take long before you hit the bed. Some provocative songs we suggest are: Boyz II Men's I'll make love to you , Peabo Bryson and Roberta Flack's Tonight I celebrate my love , Savage Garden's - Truly madly deeply and Celine Dion's My heart will go on.

9. Sex toys & lubricants: These are handy nick-knacks in the love game. "A high quality lubricant adds a whole new dimension to the sensations you experience during a sex session. To play it safe, stick to water based lubes wherever possible," suggests Dr. S.K Rai. And if you are thinking that sex toys are meant only for solo fun...think again! All you need to do is use your imagination and they'll come handy when you are eyeing at some fun strokes together.

10. Erotic edibles: Not in the bedroom, but in the fridge for sure! We suggest that you keep your fridge stocked with food that's not just delectable to eat, but yummier to play with. Creams, yogurts, jams, jellies, sauces, ice-creams, honey etc. taste even better when you lick them on your partner's hot bod. Not just this, they are tried and tested aphrodisiacs as well. You can even hand feed each other to get the love feast started.

A note of advice: To keep these love essentials away from the prying eyes of the other inmates of your home, especially kids (if any), keep them tucked away in a 'treasure chest'. Not only will it be fun to fill it...but exciting as well...as you put each of your collectibles to the best use possible! So, keep collecting and keep loving!

Seven types of guys women can't resist

Always wondered why some guys always manage to get the best of girls?

Well, the secret is not good looks or a well-defined six pack, but the fact that women simply get attracted to certain personality traits and flock to men who possess them.

Below are seven of these "ideal types" of guys that women are drawn to, and an explanation as to why these guys are so appealing, reports Fox News .

The list could help you understand what women are looking for, and most importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.

The Romantic Guy

He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.

Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.

The Confident Guy

He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public and gives off an aura of power and control. In a relationship, he doesn''t get jealous of other men; he doesn''t feel threatened by his girlfriend''s male friends or co-workers.

Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn''t seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.

The Artistic Guy

The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy''s creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.

The Foreign Guy

He comes from a faraway exotic country and he might have a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs and everyday behaviour can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming.

Why he is so irresistible: Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.

The Free Spirit Guy (aka the Bad Boy)

The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him - and the wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn''t worry too much about the consequences- he just sees where his own devices take him.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a rebel. She loves

his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him, although she knows she''ll never actually succeed.

The Intelligent/Witty Guy

He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense of humour and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never get boring.

Why he is so irresistible: An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you''ve got that, she''ll be hooked pretty quickly.

The Considerate Guy

He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling and when she is ready to go home.

Why he is so irresistible: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely re-evaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run.

But, think twice before copying any of the above character types, for women can know when you are faking it

Clear the air about first time sex

The first time you have sex, it's not all smooth sailing. In fact, many fears are attached to it. Dr Mahinder Watsa tells you what to expect (and what not to expect) the first time you get intimate with someone.

There'll be many a slip

Everybody wants their first time to be perfect. Some even envision it to be some kind of fairytale moment. Nothing wrong with that, but one should know that there could be slip-ups, all the same. The man often wishes intercourse to last longer, but if he achieves orgasm early (presumably due to a rush of excitement), it is okay! Some may even fail to achieve an e******n and in that moment of disappointment, label themselves as not being ‘up to the mark'. If that is what you think, it is a big mistake. You can always end the session with ample for*play. If things don't go as planned in the very first time, there's always a second time. If a man can achieve an e******n during m**********n, he is normal. So just relax and go with the flow.

Yes, it hurts, but wait

For women, the first time can be a little painful, but hang on. It's not the pain that they must dread. In most cases, the pain is almost like that of finger prick. However, it's the fear of pain that makes things worse. The hype surrounding the pain often induces fear in women, resulting in spasms at the slightest touch. This is where it is important for the partner to step in. Firstly, ensure she feels comfortable with you. Ample for*play is a must to get the vagina lubricated. Start with inserting a finger to rupture the hymen,

and then slowly, proceed towards intercourse. The key is to take it slow.

Bleeding? Maybe. Maybe not

That a woman must bleed during her first intercourse is undoubtedly the most misguided notion people harbour. The bleeding occurs when the hymen splits. However, why is it so difficult to understand that the same hymen which is considered a mark of virginity by many men can also split due to other reasons? Rigorous exercises such as cycling can split the hymen. In some cases, it may even be congenitally absent. The hymen can also rupture, when women masturbate. Bleeding, or no bleeding, the fact that you are close enough to your partner to get sexually intimate demands you also put a certain level of trust in her. Doubts, if any, should be cleared right in the beginning, and not in the bed.

Contraception can fail

One wrong move is enough to invite unwanted pregnancy. Don't rely on withdrawal method or the safe days of the woman's menstrual cycle. Unmarried couples must use condoms. If marriage is around the corner, the woman can visit her gynaecologist a month before the wedding. The doctor will put her on oral contraceptives, safe enough to see the couple through the honeymoon phase. Later, the couple can consult the gynaecologist and select the contraceptive method that suits them the best.

It will get messy

When body fluids are exchanged, it can get quite messy. But there are no two ways about it. Either you do it, or you don't. So don't fret too much about unwanted stains and keep an extra sheet handy

What every man should know about birth control

There are many more forms of birth control than just the condom and the pill, and it's a good idea to explore your options. 

For men who don’t want to have children - or who want to put off having a family until the time is right - contraceptive options extend far beyond condoms. Besides the options for women (including birth control pills, diaphragms, and injections), men can undergo the permanent solution of vasectomy. 

When it comes to birth control, men know plenty about condoms, a little about birth control pills (women take one a day, right?) but not a whole lot else. 

It's a pretty good idea for you to know about the other forms of birth control. For example, when she says she's using a diaphragm, you should understand what that means and how well-protected against pregnancy the two of you are. 

So here's a basic guide to the most widely used forms of birth control. 

Male condoms: The granddaddy of birth control devices, condoms have been around for centuries. Condoms are thin sheaths made of latex or plastic that are rolled onto the pen*s prior to sex. They prevent pregnancy by catching and containing sperm when a man ejaculates. Condoms are low-cost and easily available. They also are the only form of birth control that will protect both partners against most sexually transmitted diseases. 

Failure rate: About 15 out of every 100 couples each year may become pregnant using condoms. 

Female condoms: Doctors also have created female condoms, plastic pouches that are inserted deep into the vagina. They cover the vagina and catch sperm after ejaculation. However, they are not as easy to use or as effective as the male condom. 

Failure rate: About 21 out of every 100 couples each year may become pregnant using female condoms. 

Birth control pills: Birth control pills are made of hormones that keep a woman’s ovaries from releasing an egg each month, a process known as ovulation. If there's no egg to join with a sperm, pregnancy can't occur. The hormones also thicken a woman's cervical mucus, helping it slow down and block sperm headed for the uterus. The pill has to be taken every day, whether or not the woman has sex, to be effective as birth control. 

Failure rate: Fewer than 1 out of every 100 couples may become pregnant if the pill is taken perfectly - every day, at about the same time each day. But about 8 out of 100 couples may become pregnant if the pill isn't taken each day as directed. 

Diaphragm: Made of latex and shaped like a dome with a flexible rim, the diaphragm is inserted into the vagina prior to sex to cover the opening of the cervix. 

Failure rate: About 16 out of 100 couples. 

Cervical cap: This sailor's hat-shaped silicone cup is inserted into the vagina and over the cervix. 

Failure rate: About 29 out of 100 couples (less effective for women who have previously given birth than for women who have not). 

Contraceptive sponge: The plastic foam sponge containing spermicide is inserted deep into the vagina. 

Failure rate: About 16 to 30 out of 100 couples (less effective for women who have previously given birth than for women who have not). 

Vaginal ring: This contraceptive ring is flexible and small and is inserted into the vagina once a month. The ring releases hormones to prevent ovulation. It is left in place for three weeks, then taken out for the last week of the month. 

Failure rate: About 8 out of 100 couples. 

Birth control patch: This thin plastic patch is stuck to a woman’s skin. The patch releases contraceptive hormones and is replaced once a week. It follows the same three-weeks on, one-week off pattern of the vaginal ring. 

Failure rate: About 8 out of 100 couples. 

Birth control shot: One injection of the hormone called progestin will prevent pregnancy for three months. 

Failure rate: About 3 out of 100 couples. 

IUD, or intrauterine devices: They are small, shaped like the letter “T”, and made of flexible plastic. They are placed by a doctor or gynecologist into a woman's uterus. IUDs prevent sperm from joining with an egg, but it's not entirely clear how they work. There are some health risks involved, and doctors often prefer to use IUDs in women who've already had a baby. 

Failure rate: Less than 1 out of 100 couples. 

Female barrier methods: These are devices women use to block sperm from reaching the egg. They are used in conjunction with a spermicidal (sperm-killing) cream, foam, or gel. 

Sterilization: This is the ultimate birth control, in which surgeons render pregnancy impossible by permanently altering the reproductive system. Generally speaking, these procedures are irreversible. 

Vasectomy: A surgeon closes or blocks the tubes that transmit sperm into the seminal fluid released during ejaculation. The blocked sperm are absorbed by the man’s body, and ejaculate released during sex is incapable of causing pregnancy. Tubal ligation. A surgeon ties, cuts, or seals a woman's fallopian tubes, which carry eggs from the ovaries into the uterus for impregnation. If you and your partner have unprotected intercourse, or if the condom breaks, what then? You should know that emergency contraception in the form of “the morning-after pill” (Plan B) is available without a prescription to women age 18 and older. This medication, a hormone called progestin, can prevent pregnancy if taken within three, and possibly within five days after unprotected sex. It is as effective as other hormonal forms of birth control, but the earlier it is taken the better. Plan B will not protect against pregnancy for any future acts of intercourse, and it is not meant to be used for anything other than emergency situations.

10 places women want to be touched

Forget a woman's cleavage, there are more erogenous spots that you can now explore to get your lady sexcited. Read on to discover her ten most sensuous body parts waiting to be discovered. 

Women are sensuous creatures and they love being kissed and caressed. What guys often mistake is that they go straight for the woman's breasts or other private parts, without concentrating on her other moan zones. So, if you want to get your gal into the mood, stimulate some of her often-neglected body parts. 

Touch these places during for*play and sex, or just give her some pleasure after a hard day and she'll surely reward you with brownie points in bed. 

Tresses

All guys like women with gorgeous locks. But what you need to know is that women love being touched on their head. It's quite a stress reliever. Running your hands sensuously through her tresses is likely to send shivers down her spine. Massage her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be game to your desires. 

Nape of her neck

In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was considered extremely attractive by men as it was one of the few zones that were not covered by the elaborate kimono. Today, very few men focus on the nape of the neck, but we suggest you build up the pleasure by gentle touching and kissing your lady love from her hairline down to her shoulders. It will make her reach dizzying heights of pleasure. 

Collar bone

A well-defined collarbone is what men find irresistible. So, why not touch and kiss her there. Unbutton her shirt just a little and stimulate her collarbone with your touch. Create circles with your tongue and give her love bites right there, just to remind her of how much you want her. 

Small of her back

Most women love it when their guy places his protective hand against the small of her back as it shows that he feels very strongly about her. So, why not incorporate this gesture into your for*play routine, by kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back. It will definitely get her into the mood for more! 

Behind her knees

This area is a power house of sensitive nerve endings. You can gently caress the back of her knee under her skirt while the two of you are in an open public space as it is sure to get her excited by the time you reach home. 

Palms of her hands

We use our hands to please our partners, but have you ever thought that you could arouse a woman by stimulating the palm of her hand? Run your finger along her palm as that will make her feel relaxed and ready for a sexy rendezvous ahead. 

Her earlobes

This is one of the most erogenous moan centers of a woman's body. Touching, kissing and even gently biting her earlobes will send her into a sexual tizzy. If you are getting extra adventurous, simply nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but don't put your tongue inside her ear. That's a major turn off! 

Happy feet

There's nothing more sinfully seductive than a foot massage. It will help her relax, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Get yourself some aromatic massage oil or lotion. Pay extra attention to the pressure points such as her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Some women love enjoy having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so ask your babe what she would have you do before putting them in your mouth. 

Soft thighs

Touching a woman's inner thighs without touching her private parts is the most sensual tease that is sure to get her all charged up. Employ your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, remember to pull back before going all the way.

Sex-guide according to your age

Our sexual behaviour varies at different times in our lives. Sex guru Tracey Cox in her bestselling book, ‘Sextasy’ reveals the sexual urges and traits of lovers according to their age...

20-something

Most guys just can't stop dreaming about sex every couple of hours. At this age, girls are usually rebellious in their sexual imaginations. They share same-sex fantasies or want to try out bi-sexuality. A 2006 study of nearly 2000 people discovered that 76 per cent of women who slept with women reached orgasm (for women with men, the figure stands at 50 per cent).

The 20s are the time when young boys and girls are most experimental in their sexual positions. One in 10 people claims Tracey Cox have had a threesome in their early twenties.

Also, people in this age group have most likely visited a strip joint or a lapdancing club - with their friends or their better half.

30 something

The 30s are a time to experiment, almost all 30-somethings claim to have had sex outdoors. Unlike the teens when making out was the most common form of sexual experimentation, most 30 somethings prefer having sex somewhere semi-public like the beach, in the garden or on a park bench in the darkness. There's something wildly ero*ic about these sexapades! Also, high on the 30 something popularity chart are having sex in the shower or in the bath tub.

Kinky pleasures also rate high as most 30 plus couples claim to be giving in to their fantasies of bondage, blindfolds and spanking on a weekend of debauchery.

This is also the time when women are most likely to befriend gay male pals. Straight women love gay men; gay men love straight women. Swedish research is confirming just why the two groups get along so famously - they both have symmetrical brains. Straight men and lesbians have asymmetrical brain hemispheres.

The 30s also mark the arrival of children in a married couple's life, so the sex drive naturally dwindles. But, Cox points out that during pregnancy, couples have sex four to five times a month. Most put the brakes on their sex lives for about seven weeks after delivery, but four months later are back to four or five times of sex a month. Cox says six months after delivery, the average couple goes back to having sex three to five times a month. But incase you don't fit the bill, remember getting disheartened ain't gonna help. Remember it's just a temporary period, so continue touching and cuddling and if your baby robs you of chances to have sex, indulge in quickies.

Most women says Cox in her book experience higher orgasm rates. Ninety per cent of women past 30 regularly experience orgasm, compared to just 23 per cent of younger women.

40 something

Men in their 40s are more likely to experience e******n problems. Also, this is the age when maximum number of men tend to be unfaithful. Also, men are more compelled in their 40s to watch more p*rn or indulge in sex chats. Women on the other hand get sexually very demanding, often being attracted to younger men.

If you thought the 40s were about low libido, think again, while 40-somethings maybe having less sex than ever, the thrust has shifted from how many times in a week to an emphasis on better quality. You are more sure of your sexual needs in this age group and thus more likely to insist on passion play as opposed to a mere making out session.

Woman's emotional guide for sex

It’s rightly said that you perform well in bed when you have the desire to score brownie points.

Everyone likes to enjoy lovemaking with a fully charged up mind and at the same time they want an equally aroused partner in bed to ensure gratifying sex. It's the emotion, mood and the present state of mind that adds to the sexual ecstasy.

A recent study revealed that women with a high emotional intelligence have better sex lives and they experienced more orgasms than those with low EI who suffered orgasmic disorder. “The findings show that emotional intelligence is an added advantage in many aspects of your life, including the bedroom. This study enormously helps in the development of behavioural and cognitive therapies to improve women's sexual lives," said Professor Tim Spector, director of the Twin Research Department at King's College London.

Relationship counsellor Gitanjali Sharma explains, “Emotional intelligence is basically the ability to understand your emotions and those of people around you. It’s about reading emotions, balancing and regulating them. If you are emotionally satisfied, you are in a happier mood which applies to your bedroom too. It’s important to realise that sex starts in one's mind before it reaches the body. Before having sex physically, you actually get physical mentally and that is possible only with an emotionally sound mind.”

Dr. Kamal Khurana, a marriage and relationship counsellor agrees, “Women give sex to get love, so they want a lot of reassurance and companionship from their male partner. They have a sex drive, but eventually it’s more about emotional warmth, which turns into an expression of love and sex. When women receive more of emotional support in dealing with their mood swings, they are happier and consequently perform well in bed.”

Elucidating the fact that women can spice up their sex lives with a dash of emotions, we get experts to share some emotions that can do wonders in your sexual paradise when dealt with in a desired way...

Angry : Anger has to do with fear and it is a very healthy emotion. Anger problems can make hungry-for-sex women become so adamant on controlling their anger that they stop feeling sexy. It's often an alarm clock for their male partner where men are expected to understand that there's something making the woman angry. Anger leads to rejection of the male in an intimate act. The emotion of anger clearly shows that there is a problem deep down due to which the female partner may not be responding in the desired manner.

Spice up the emotion : Dr. Kamal Khurana, a marriage therapist suggests, “Of course you should not talk at that particular time, but men should try and find out the right time to reach out to their lady love. Try talking about what is bothering your lady in a nice manner, which is not hurtful or provoking. As soon as you trace the reason behind her anger, try bringing in a dash of surprise humour to lighten up her mood. Express your love through a meaningful gesture by saying ‘I love you’ via a card, keeping romantic notes below her pillow, cracking a sexual joke or sending her favourite flowers.”

Overjoyed : When a woman is going through this emotion, she would evidently want to go on talking about her elated state of mind. Having such a good mood, she would undoubtedly perform well in bed, but her mind is likely to be diverted.

Spice up the emotion : Gitanjali Sharma, a relationship counsellor states, “It’s entirely up to the male partner as to how he handles his woman in bed on that particular night. It’s important for him to listen to her and support her and be a part of her celebration. Understand that she is at her joyful peak, so it will be wrong to expect her to be on the peak of sex too. Be patient and make the most of this emotion by going with the flow. Connect with her and laugh out loud on whatever she says and then as the passion builds on, you can proceed for an intimate session.”

Anxious : Anxious people do not often experience a satisfying orgasm. Anxiety exists when a woman is afraid of something that might happen in the future or something which she has experienced during a particular day. When she goes to bed with these anxieties running through her mind, she is not mentally prepared to enjoy sex. If this emotion is not dealt with properly, possibilities are there that sex would be avoided often and there will be more of excuses in your relationship.

Spice up the emotion : “Ensuring that your woman doesn’t get carried away with this emotion, the male partner has to be supportive here. When in such a mood, sex should not be treated as a tick-marked routine thing which has to be done mundanely. The act should be aimed at comforting each other and the secondary stage should involve body contact. Lot of discussions would help bringing you partner closer to you and as you touch upon the different domains of her life, sex will naturally flow,” suggests Dr. Khurana.

Isolated : This emotion can bring drastic results in a woman’s sex life. Due to a feeling of isolation, she may suffer from depression and have a low confidence level. With feelings of being disowned, she would not want to attach herself with anyone, thus bearing a clear unwillingness towards sex. On the other hand, seeking physical and emotional support, she may become too vulnerable thereby indulging in sex just to come out of this isolation.

Spice up the emotion : “In such circumstances, men must communicate with their female partners to try and help her regain high emotional intelligence. Loving gestures from your end will reassure her and make her come close to you. Once you have given her the recognition and made her feel important in some way, she would be all into you and will be charged up for a sexual session too,” says Gitanjali.

Silence : There must be certain inhibitions that induce a woman to remain silent for a prolonged time span. When a woman is unable to express her mind freely, or she is undergoing emotional pain, her self-esteem is low. During lovemaking moments when your lady love is in such a mood, she will behave as if sex is a forced pressure on her.

Spice up the emotion : “The basic idea while dealing with this emotion is to make her open up and speak out her mind. Chances are high that she might have certain sexual preferences, which she is finding tough to communicate. So make her feel at ease, indulge in a healthy conversation over a coffee, empower her to be expressive and say whatever she wants to without any apprehensions. Once her thoughts are conveyed in a proper manner, she will look forward to lovemaking, sans any uneasiness,” feels Dr. Khurana.

Negative attitude : A pessimistic emotion makes a woman see everything wrong around her. Indulging in negative self-talk, there is nothing that seems to bring joy to her. Even if her male partner approaches her for sex, she is likely not to respond in a desired way.

Spice up the emotion : “The male partner needs to install a positive feeling to help the woman come out of her negativity. It’s advisable to highlight positive things and good attributes about her and pamper her so as to create a feel good feeling. It’s only after creating this good mood around a lady that her libido can be nurtured too,” shares Gitanjali.

10 Habits of happy couples

What does it take to be happy in a relationship? If you’re working to improve your marriage, here are a few habits of happy couples.

1. Go to bed at the same time

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

2. Cultivate common interests

After the passion settles down, it’s common to realise that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimise the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work

Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single

upsetting incident.

9. Do a “weather” check during the day

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact - hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behaviour that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behaviour to become a habit. So select one of the behaviours in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit...and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.

If there was one key to happiness in love and life, and possibly even success, it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, "Just Listen."

Signs of a perfect partner

"Do I have a perfect sex partner?" If not, how can I get one? Indeed a million dollar question that hovers in the minds of most couples!

Though it might be hard to find an absolute sexually compatible partner, but most couples don't even know the traits that they or their better half should posses to be a perfect sex partner.

Having an outstanding sex partner takes a huge burden off an individual's mind. It allows them concentrate more on the act, instead of thinking too much about whether they're making love to the right person or not. When it comes to a perfect sex partner, attributes like height, weight, age, behaviour, choices etc take a backseat. What matters is that he/she suits you and shares an amazing chemistry in the bedroom.

Dr. Kirti Mishra, a clinical physiologist and a relationship expert elucidates, "The idea of a perfect sex partner varies for different individuals, but some common traits like sexually active, experimental in bed, hygienically sound etc are a must, as they are the key for finding sexual bliss. Most couples today are working on their personal attributes to match their partner's prerequisites and thus become a perfect sex partner."

Apart from good looks, a hot body and a heady sex drive, let's explore the less superficial elements of what makes a perfect sex partner. And if your partner bears these qualities in bed, you can unquestionably boast of having a great sex partner...

1. Hygiene holds the key

Everyone likes making love to a clean and tidy partner, so good hygiene holds great importance in a sexual relationship. Ensure that your partner is well manicured with a fully waxed body to ensure a higher comfort level. Too much hair on body makes it uncomfortable to enjoy each inch of your lover. So look out for a soft and clean skin in your partner complemented with a nice smell, as a bad body odour is a huge turn-off.

Hot tip : "During sexual intimacy, everyone wants a hygienically fit partner, as this not only enhances the comfort level, but lets you enjoy the act more. So make sure you seem as fresh as if you have just stepped out of the shower before getting into bed. Sexual scents and aphrodisiacal fragrances are a good choice," recommends Dr. Devesh Roy, a sex therapist.

2. Oral sex shouldn't be an issue

You know what pleases you, so a wonderful partner to have in bed is one who doesn't hesitate going out of the way to give you that pleasure. If not routinely, your partner should be ready to please you orally as per their own mood and comfort level. While no one is perfectly adept at the oral act, but a partner who tries learning the little tricks to arouse you can surely add magic to your love life.

Hot tip : "Don't wait for your partner to tell you or give hints each time they feel like experiencing oral pleasure, instead make it a part of the love making act. It is quite safe and enjoyable as the actual act, so don't be unwilling to go for it," states Dr. Deepak Gupta, a sex expert.

3. Be an adventure lover

Intimacy and passion gets killed if you have a boring partner, who is having sex for the sake of it. Ensure that he/she makes every effort to heighten the sensation by exploring their adventurous side. Having a partner who is open to trying new sexual pleasures is a definite bonus. Right from participating in dirty talks, taking chocolate baths with you, trying out new positions to indulging in naughty love games, he/she should be keen to try sex escapades that make them a perfect bedroom partner.

Hot tip : "Like a weekend getaway gives you a much needed break, sex also can become monotonous after a sluggish period. To liven it up, you need to think out-of-the-box and try all kinds of sexual adventures that ensure a gratifying experience," shares Dr. Kirti.

4. A sexy shape can do wonders

Though weighty issues shouldn't come in way of your sexual pleasure, yet it's natural to look for a partner sans love handles or a bulging belly as an overweight partner can mar your sexual life. Being in top shape gives your body greater flexibility and accentuates your bedroom performance. If seeing your partner semi-n*ked makes you feel irresistible and you can't think of anything except sex, what else you can ask for!

Hot tip : "Good body shape is always welcomed and what adds to your sex appeal is an appropriate dressing sense with which you can underline your positive features and gear up for a hot bedroom romp. To be a perfect partner in bed, try shedding the accumulated fat on your belly or butt area to boost your performance," suggests Dr. Roy.

5. Propose newer things

It's excellent to take charge in bed sans any inhibitions. But what makes sex even more special is to bring new-fangled sex ideas and implement them. A vivid imagination and voracious desires can contribute to healthy sexuality. With an avid sex lover who is willing to try arousing positions in bed, use sex toys, suggest new ways to climax, explore alternate seduction techniques and for*play acts, the sex romp can be one of its kind.

Hot tip : "Being innovative is good, but it is of no use if you confine this sexual knowledge just to yourself. Hence, be more forthcoming in your approach and propose new ways to improve your bedroom pleasure and perform actively," advices Dr. Kirti.

6. Fantasy sharing does magic

Communication holds the key to sexual pleasure, so a partner who is keen to discuss their wildest dreams and desires in bed can make sex a heavenly act. No partner can be tagged as sexually perfect until they are open about discussing their innate sexual preferences, as these tell the partner how they can perform. Look out for a partner who is not only open about their fantasies, but also invites you to share yours with a reassurance to fulfill them with ease.

Hot tip : "If you cannot be outspoken about your sexual fantasies, you may resort to measures like penning them down or recording them on a tape. But ensure that it reaches your partner at the right time before you slip between the sheets," says Dr. Gupta.