How to make your gal happy

There are certain qualities in men that women absolutely dig.

It’s not just about being tall, dark and handsome. There are certain ‘manly’ qualities about guys that can make any woman go weak in her knees. And while you may think it’s all about the looks, guess what? There’s more. It’s a potent mix of both, physical attributes and of course, that all important emotional touch. Here, we tell you about six points you need to heed.

Well groomed
Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you present yourself. Just like guys like a women who is well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that they are perfectly groomed a la Leonardo DiCaprio. The basic funda women believe in is that if you are careful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys, sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are an absolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from the opposite sex.

A sense of style
Women would rather have you splurging on them than on obscenely priced designer wear. So, even if it’s a typical roadside purchase that you swear by, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylised look and maintain it. Women don’t really expect you to be a picture copy of a Pierce Brosnan or a David Beckham, but trying to imitate their style will surely up your popularity quotient. Keep yourself updated on the latest trends. Also, just as you have your reservations against the ‘nun-type’ dressers, women too hesitate when it comes to the boring office type dresser.

Laugh it out
One of the most important trait that woman dig is a sense of humour. Women have more than enough problems to deal with and don’t really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, you have your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humour, and clean humour at that. Beware, taking a dig at others and constantly putting others down do not really spell fun for women. And we can’t tell you enough how much women love people who can laugh at themselves and their own mistakes.

Show them you care
Women need to be constantly reassured that they are loved and cared for. Acts like holding their hand while walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks and making sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care for them. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you are with. However, beware of being crass while displaying you affections.

A sexy smile/wink
There’s a reason why women absolutely adore Richard Gere or Hugh Jackman and it has a lot to do with the way that they smile or that glint in their eyes. Believe us when we tell you that if you look at them and smile like that, it does make them feel very special, like they are one in a million.

Be calm
Woman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn’t help if you too get stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in your looks as it does in your attitude - women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who is able to calm them down and reassure them that all is well.

Types of Sex between a Couple

Right, wrong, conventional, unconventional – these are mere words. What is ‘unconventional’ for one, maybe ‘conventional’ for the other, who’s to decide? Read through the ensuing pages and know for yourself the advantages and disadvantages of certain relationships.

In order to fully enjoy these practices, you must ensure you understand all of the potential ramifications prior to engaging in them.

Three is not a crowd

It is a common dream which in today’s time and age has the potential to be oh-so real. It involves you, your partner, and another person. Most people enter it to experience a new form of sex as they are bored of the ‘vanilla’ sex they have with their partner. However, the best would be if all three of you are reasonably well known to each other and comfortable enough to enjoy a sexual act.

Advantage: You have the chance to spice up your sex life as by bringing in a third person you are exploring facts of your personality and sexual relationship which you didn’t know existed. If done correctly, it can be an intense and amazing experience.

Disadvantage: Finding someone to enjoy a threesome can be problematic. Where do you find someone you can trust implicitly?
Should you pick up someone from the bar or disco who will leave you alone after the sex-capade? Mostly it’s done with friends or colleagues at work who you are comfortable with. But if you are willing to let a third person on your couple-dom, make sure you remain sensitive to your primary partner. If you focus too much on the newcomer there could be resentment and possible, fallouts.

Swinging

When a couple has organised sex with other people, it means one is open to swinging. This is usually indulged in to enhance an almost dead relationship between a committed couple.

Advantage: You might enjoy it if the thought or the sight of your partner having sex someone else is an excitement for you. Or if you want to explore your sexuality outside the perimeters of what is acceptable, then go ahead.

Disadvantage: Both of you must make informed and non-judgmental decisions. If you are only doing it to spite your partner or on the rebound, please don’t do so as there will be tension, and it will be destructive to your relationship.

One-night stands

It’s, as the name clearly suggests, solely done for the purpose of a single, non-committal sexual encounter.

Advantage: It’s an easy way of enjoying unlimited sex in one night with no room for emotions. But if it’s done with someone known to you, well, emotions will creep in, sooner or later.

Disadvantage: Do you know if the person you are having sex with has AIDs or not, has any other STD? Could he or she be a shady character? Even in your drunk state, try and assess the individual you plan to bring back to your pad and if you cannot, call a friend who can!

Open relationships

As the name suggests, in this kind of relationship, there are no bounds. However, there is a commitment between two people, but they can have as many partners to have sex with as they wish. It won’t amount to cheating as everything is discussed and it’s there in the ‘open’.

Advantage: You get an opportunity to explore your sexual quotient outside the restrictions put upon them by a committed relationship. There is freedom of ‘emotional movement’ as you decide who you want to spend your morning and nights with.

Disadvantage: Chances of falling in love with the person outside your committed relationship are very high. This will create a rift between you and your primary relationship which may call for a new decisions lending you instability.

No-strings friends

These days it’s common to have a friend with benefits or FWB, as it’s known. He or she maybe a good friend, a person you know casually from work or a neighbour who you’ve hooked up with specifically and solely for the purposes of sex.

Advantage: In this set-up, it’s a clear and mutual desire to only enjoy sex together. This is a utopia-like state where sex is unlimited and easy. You feel free here as there are no obligations to build a relationship.

Disadvantage: But what if either of you develop feelings for the other and worse, if are not reciprocated? This could create resentment and make you feel used and abused, all the while destroying the relationship you may otherwise share with the person.

Perk up your sex life

Want to perk up your love life? Well, then start from the kitchen with food that will give you the oomph factor, says an expert.

Hormone and anti-ageing specialist Cecilia Tregear says that sex plays an important role in making people look and feel younger.

Tregear, who is based at the Wimpole Skin Clinic in Harley Street, London, has worked with hundreds of couples over the course of her 25-year career.

"The couples who were having lots of regular sex almost always looked younger than those who weren't. They were also slimmer, fitter, healthier and happier. Sexual activity, in my view, is an accurate thermometer for measuring health," the Daily Mail quoted her as saying.

And she realised the people who were having lots of sex in their relationships had one key factor in common: their diet. All of them were eating extremely nutritious food.

She explains: "Good nutrition is essential for the healthy production of hormones which maintain the libido and allow for regular and fulfilling sexual activity."

She has devised the Between the Sheets diet, which promises to perk up your libido. Combined with regular exercise it should ensure you not only have regular, great sex-just like you did in your youth-but look and feel younger too.

STEP ONE: FEED YOUR BRAIN

According to Tregear, the first step to boosting your love life is to feed your brain. "The biggest sexual organ is the brain, which produces the chemicals and hormones that trigger feelings of love and attraction, arousal and or*asm. We need to make sure we're eating the right foods to ensure the production of these chemicals and hormones."

First, it's important to have a diet that boosts the levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine, released by the brain. Dopamine is the feel-good chemical associated with the emotions of anticipation and desire. As such, it is vital to a healthy sex drive.

STEP TWO: BALANCE YOUR HORMONES

Having a good balance of hormones is essential to a healthy sex life, which is why the menopause - when hormone levels drop - can cause havoc with your sex life. There are three hormones responsible for arousal and sexual desire: oestrogens, which are present in both men and women, testosterone, also in both men and women, and DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone), which is found in women only.

"A good balance of animal fat in meat and fish and good cholesterol, found in eggs for example, encourages the production of sex hormones, improving libido. It's vital to eat plenty of good quality protein, ideally a portion with every meal," said Tregear.

STEP THREE: BOOST YOUR ENERGY

For good sex, you need stamina and energy. While a generally healthy diet will help you feel strong and healthy, it's important to eat food that will increase your levels of Human Growth Hormone (HGH). This hormone increases sexual desire and provides the stamina and energy needed for a sexual marathon. To increase production, eat organic protein from beef, fish, and chicken. (ANI)