7 Must-know sex secrets

Guys, here's your chance to know the seven sex secrets women wish their partner knew

A good talk is a great aphrodisiac
Many women find talk a great turn-on. For them, talking and feeling loved are very important. Good conversation during walks or while the couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is with her mentally during those intimate moments.

Many women are anxious about their looks
For a couple that has been together for long, sometimes it is natural that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring. Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness. Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say she's gorgeous if she isn't, nor is there a need to say that she is not attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do find attractive.

For a woman sex isn't separate from rest of her life
On the other hand, men tend to compartmentalise, feeling that stressful aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.

An or*asm is not a necessity
Many men feel that a good lover is one who can bring his woman to climactic sexual culmination. It is great to have such moments, but aren't always essential. Many women feel pressure from partners and even from themselves to reach an or*asm. Sometimes instead of having orgasms, women prefer to engage in just for*play.

Sex need not be a serious act
Playfulness is a great quality. Many men are far too serious about sex. They forget to laugh, be romantically mischievous, have fun. Playfulness and light-heartedness can make intimate moments enjoyable and relaxing. This takes performance pressure off from both partners.

Women cherish non-sexual touching and tenderness
Women love romance, cuddling, hand-holding and kissing. But many women complain that their men never do this except during for*play. A woman should make her man realise the joy of touching. As you give him a relaxing massage and stroke his face and hair tenderly, he starts experiencing the joy of this kind of non-sexual touching. Tell your man what makes you feel loved.

Warm attention after sex is important
A woman's need for tender moments goes beyond the actual lovemaking. Some women complain that men fall asleep immediately after the act. It is true that when a man is having sex, his endorphin level is very high. Almost immediately after ejaculation, he goes through a refractory phase where he loses his erection and all his systems gear down. In females this phase happens gradually. However, if you don't like him falling asleep immediately, tell him without putting him down. Alternatively, let him sleep in your arms for a few minutes and gently wake him up afterwards

10 Spices to raise your sex drive

Some spices can enhance your lustful performance

India is the land of spices and the second-most populous country in the world. Though the two facts sound disarrayed, they are actually linked! Research proves that our sex life gets affected (and spiced up) by some spices.

Fenugreek seeds: Saponins which can be found in fenugreek seeds play a role in increasing the production of testosterone, the male hormones, which, in turn, causes the raise in male libido.

Cardamom: These green wonders increase energy and relieve fatigue, and help you rock your love making process.

Clove: They heat up the body and maybe that's what increases the hotness quotient on bed!

Fennel: Saunf, as they are called in Hindi, contain an estrogen-like substance (estirol) that turns out libido. So careful before you grab a handful of it at a restaurant after dinner.

Ginseng: It helps improve male erectile dysfunction (ED)

Saffron: There's a reason why old Hindi films had saasumas forcing bahus to add saffron to the milk on the first night. And you thought it was just for a fair child!

Nutmeg: It's one of the most popular natural aphrodisiacs. Research proves that nutmeg has the same effect on mating behavior as Viagra. Sprinkle some in your kheer for a dirty night!

Cloves: They boost your energy levels. They also have one of the best aromatherapy scents that help improve your sexual behaviour.

Garlic: Eating green chilies with garlic is an old (tried and tested) way of enjoying sex for a longer period. Peel off its top layers, crush cloves and then fry in butter, and your partner is ready to be a nutter!

Ginger: Garlic's 'g' brother helps you tingle the 'G' spot with ease. It increases sex drive and stimulates sexual performance.

So before you start your performance, hit to the kitchen. Get lusty and spicy!

What Should You Do If She Has A Boyfriend

Do you like a girl but find yourself wondering what to do if she has a boyfriend? Find out how to steal a girlfriend from the pro.

How to steal a girlfriend

Now I really do hope you read the introduction before getting here, because the H.U.Guy doesn’t like repeating. And if she has a boyfriend and you still want her, you really need to be thorough.

After all, if she has a boyfriend, you really do need to steal a girl from her guy and you can’t do that without all the details.

So in this part, I’m going to tell you the five not-so-obvious moves and the five sneaky dirty things you can do to steal a girlfriend from right under her guy’s nose.

Undercover moves – Five not-so-obvious signs

Here, we play safe and keep it simple. We don’t really want to scare her away just because she has a boyfriend. Make her like you first, lover boy.
Get to know everything she can tell

This is important if she has a boyfriend. Once you’re friends with her, you need to become something more than that.
So talk about her favorite dates, her kind of movies, the little annoying stuff she’s done, and everything else.

Just to warm her up, you start off by narrating the time you ripped your pants off while trying to jump into a girl’s house. Just as long as you open up, she will too, and you know what, she’s going to love talking to you!

Are you better than him?

The test of manliness. Talk about her guy. Pop the question. Ask her what kind of a guy he is. If you’re getting into her good books, she will keep it simple. Then ask her what she thinks of you.

Compare both the scores out aloud. Laugh and talk about what you can do to tilt the balance in your favor. And then get back to talking about how they met, and more blah, blah and blah about her guy.

Make her love you!

She’s in love with her man, but that could change. Impress her, be a man around her. Give her the space when she meets her pals or is on the phone when both of you are together, so she can be comfortable when you’re around.

Remember her special days, her deadlines, and anything else, even if it is really trivial. Show her that even her little things are really important to you. And wait for the good times.

Be her other guy

Now get this straight, you be her other guy, not her back-up guy. If you find that she’s just using you as her Man Friday when he’s not around, walk out.
She should respect you and want you. Don’t go trailing her at every opportunity you get. If you really want to steal a girlfriend, you need to keep it slow, and talk to her once in a while, at least once a day if you work at the same place, or alternate days or less if it’s on phone. Let her miss you when you aren’t around. Drive her to work if you can, give her the attention, and basically, treat her like a princess when you’re together.

Give her what her guy can’t give
Pamper her. You may not be around her all the time, and her guy may be. But that doesn’t matter. Because your one hour around her can do more damage to him than all day.

Talk and be genuinely interested in her. If you get a call when she’s with you, see if you can cancel and call back, and let her see that. She should know how special the times both of you share is to you. And more than anything else, maintain intense eye contact with her when both of you talk. Make her feel like she’s the only thing in the world you care about when you’re with her.

The Five Sneaky Lil’ Signs – Getting down and dirty

Dig all info

She has a boyfriend already. And there may be a few things she knows but she won’t tell. And any info about her is good info. That’s where her pals come into the picture. If you know them in the first place, then go on and ask a few things about her. But very discreetly, of course.

You don’t want them to know you’re hitting on her. And admit it, if you do like her, you’re definitely going to want to talk about her.
The annoying mo-fo, her boyfriend

Find out more about her guy from any source you can get. There may always be a few skeletons that could be dug out here. So he doesn’t believe in holding doors open for a woman? The next time you talk to her, tell her the story about a man who doesn’t open doors for women, and how annoying that is.

See, that’s like letting her know her guy isn’t all that great, without actually talking about him. On the other hand, talk about how much you live by the code of chivalry. Discreetly, of course!

“Bump” into her

So you know things about her. Good. Does she hang out on weekends at a particular place? Did her friends tell you that? Excellent. As long as she hasn’t told you that, and you’ve figured it out yourself, go for the kill.

Accidentally bump into her at the same place, and pretend like your “surprise” meeting is a damn sign from heaven that you guys have to be together. Ask her out to coffee or lunch. You know, these occasional bumping scenarios could actually take you somewhere.
 
Who’s that guy?

Remember, for you, her boyfriend is of no value. So treat him like one. Unless you know him on first-name basis, refer to him as ‘your boyfriend’ when you talk to her. She may talk about how much she loves him, and blah, but it doesn’t matter. And at times, when she goes on and on about him, yawn pointedly and make sure she knows it’s a fake yawn. But do make sure you laugh after you do that, you’d want to make it seem like a joke instead of a rude gesture.

Same workspace

Sometimes, we end up liking a girl in the same workspace. And to make things worse, her boyfriend could work there too. So when you’re talking to her once in a while, there’s a fair chance that he’d end up joining the conversation too. Don’t lose your enthusiasm here, but stay away from flirty comments.

But the second he walks away, thank your lucky starts loudly and get back to your flirty talk.

A line that goes like, “Thank you God, at last, I can get a few minutes with this beautiful girl without her boyfriend around!” not only gets the point across, but also sounds humorous